Ask Amy: Daughter-in-law doesn’t want to forgive adultery

After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted as though nothing had ever happened.

My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.

I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone.

They want it all to be puppy dogs and rainbows again, but I am not capable of that.

I am polite; I go to family gatherings, but it feels like a chore. My husband tells me he understands (he is disappointed, too), but I know he would like me to be friendlier. I just can’t.

I would feel best not having to be around them at all, but we want our kids to see their grandparents.

What would you recommend?

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Daughter-in-law doesn’t want to forgive adultery

After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted like nothing had ever happened. My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened, and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.

I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone. They want it all to be puppy dogs and rainbows again, but I am not capable of that. I am polite; I go to family gatherings, but it feels like a chore. My husband tells me he understands (he is disappointed, too), but I know he would like me to be friendlier. I just can’t.

I would feel best not having to be around them at all, but we want our kids to see their grandparents. What would you recommend?

UNFORGIVING

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Trump says he doesn’t know who Proud Boys are, but tells them to ‘let law enforcement do their work’

President Trump said he is unfamiliar with the far-right Proud Boys, a day after he made headlines for telling them to “stand back and stand by” during Tuesday night’s presidential debate.

“I don’t know who the Proud Boys are, I mean, you’ll have to give me a definition cause I really don’t know who they are. I can only say they have to stand down and let law enforcement do their work,” the president told reporters on the South Lawn Wednesday afternoon. “Law enforcement will do the work more and more as people see how bad this radical liberal Democrat movement is and how weak, the law enforcement is going to come back stronger and stronger. But again, I don’t know who Proud Boys are, but whoever they are, they have to stand down, let law enforcement do their work.”

Trump added: “Just stand by. Look, law enforcement will do

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Deputy PM insists government doesn’t want fewer audits as Australia’s auditor general pleads for funding



Michael McCormack wearing a suit and tie: Photograph: Mick Tsikas/AAP


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Michael McCormack has insisted the government doesn’t want – and there will not be – fewer audits of its activities, despite the auditor general warning he needs more funding or will have to make cuts.

The deputy prime minister and infrastructure minister also walked back his earlier comments that the purchase of land at Western Sydney airport for 10 times its fair value would come to be seen as “a bargain”, after Scott Morrison publicly rejected his assessment.

On Wednesday Guardian Australia revealed budget constraints have resulted in the Australian National Audit Office conducting six audits fewer than its target, prompting the auditor general, Grant Hehir, to write to Morrison pleading for more funding in next week’s budget.

Related: Agency that uncovered sports rorts will be forced to cut back on audits without budget rescue

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