Everyone says I should ignore her immorality

Dear Amy: Several years ago, my mother-in-law, “Betsy,” was unfaithful. This tore their family apart. More than once, Betsy asked my husband to “break the bad news” to his dad and to comfort him when he was devastated.

Columnist Amy Dickinson (Bill Hogan/Chicago Tribune) 

I was furious with her.

My parents were abusive during my childhood. My in-laws had always been wonderful. I saw them as a “replacement” for my broken family. Betsy destroyed that.

After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted like nothing had ever happened.

My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened, and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.

I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone. They want it all to be

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JDog Brands Offers Franchise Ownership Discount to Current, Former Law Enforcement

JDog Brands is recruiting even more Veterans to join its rapidly growing band of Veteran- and Military-family owned franchises. Now through Dec. 31, 2020, Veterans and Military family members that are also current or former law enforcement will receive a $5,000 discount off the initial franchise fee for both JDog Junk Removal and Hauling and JDog Carpet Cleaning.

In major cities across the U.S., police officers are retiring at double, even triple the usual rate. Many of them will be looking to put their skills and training to use in a new way, including entrepreneurship and franchise ownership.

“The experience, work ethic, and values these public servants gained from their time on the force, combined with their experience as Veterans or Military family members, makes them uniquely suited for business ownership at JDog,” said Army Veteran Jerry Flanagan, the co-founder and CEO of JDog Brands. “Our focus on people, purpose,

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Indonesia police arrest more than 20 as thousands protest against new jobs law

By Agustinus Beo Da Costa

JAKARTA (Reuters) – Indonesian police arrested 23 protesters in two industrial areas of Java island, using tear gas and water cannon as thousands across the country demonstrated against a new jobs law that critics say weakens worker rights and environmental regulation.

Edy Sumardi, a police spokesman in Banten on Java island, said on Wednesday that 14 demonstrators had been arrested in the province west of Jakarta during protests on Tuesday that continued into the evening.

Another police spokesman, Erdi Adrimulan Chaniago, said a further nine had been arrested in the city of Bandung, West Java. He said authorities would monitor factories and university campuses in case of further demonstrations.

The sweeping new legislation, passed into law by parliament on Monday, has been championed by the government of President Joko Widodo as key to boosting the competitiveness of Southeast Asia’s largest economy, hit hard by the

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Ask Amy: Daughter-in-law doesn’t want to forgive adultery

After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted as though nothing had ever happened.

My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.

I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone.

They want it all to be puppy dogs and rainbows again, but I am not capable of that.

I am polite; I go to family gatherings, but it feels like a chore. My husband tells me he understands (he is disappointed, too), but I know he would like me to be friendlier. I just can’t.

I would feel best not having to be around them at all, but we want our kids to see their grandparents.

What would you recommend?

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Carolyn Hax: Daughter withdraws when parents need help, so son-in-law steps up

My in-laws are now in their 80s, and Dad has Alzheimer’s. Mom is near exhaustion from caregiving, and I now see a patient, sweet person snap at him frequently. We’re at the point where my wife and I should be pitching in.

I’m over there often to fix broken stuff, do heavy cleaning, etc., however it appears my wife’s expectation of “helping” consisted solely of driving them to appointments and grabbing meals — needs that rarely pop up.

I think Mom needs regular breaks. I’ve suggested to my wife that she pick a time every couple of weeks to work from her parents’ home and give her mom a few hours of free time. Those suggestions have been met with bluster and no action. I’d gladly do it myself, but my wife will resentfully insist on going in my place. Wife and I communicate well, but this situation presents some

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Daughter-in-law doesn’t want to forgive adultery

After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted like nothing had ever happened. My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened, and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.

I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone. They want it all to be puppy dogs and rainbows again, but I am not capable of that. I am polite; I go to family gatherings, but it feels like a chore. My husband tells me he understands (he is disappointed, too), but I know he would like me to be friendlier. I just can’t.

I would feel best not having to be around them at all, but we want our kids to see their grandparents. What would you recommend?

UNFORGIVING

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Florida official says state and federal law enforcement found no ‘malicious activity’ in voter site outage: reports

Investigators looking into Florida’s voter registration website crash Monday reportedly found “no evidence of interference or malicious activity” in connection with the fiasco, which prompted officials to extend the registration deadline to Tuesday evening.

Florida Secretary of State Laurel M. Lee said Monday that the Online Voter Registration system went out “for about 15 minutes” due to an influx of web traffic. It was supposed to be the last day of voter registrations, with a midnight deadline.

But on Tuesday, after meeting with Gov. Ron DeSantis, Lee’s office said the deadline would be extended until 7 p.m. for both online and in-person voter registration.

FLORIDA EXTENDS VOTER REGISTRATION DEADLINE AFTER WEBSITE CRASH

Voters could also turn in their registration to the offices of their local county elections supervisors, tax collectors, and transportation offices or through the mail postmarked by Oct. 6.

In a statement, Lee said the outage stemmed from

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Indonesia police use water cannon and teargas to disperse labour law protests | World news

Indonesian police have used water cannon and teargas to disperse protesters rallying against a new jobs law in two cities on the island of Java, according to a police spokesman and media reports.

Thousands of workers and students had protested peacefully across the archipelago on Tuesday at the start of a three-day national strike against president Joko Widodo’s “omnibus” job creation bill, which was passed into law on Monday.

Elshinta radio posted a video on its official Twitter account showing police late in the evening using water cannon against hundreds of protesters in the city of Serang in Banten province, about 70km (43.5 miles) to the west of Jakarta.

Radio Elshinta
(@RadioElshinta)

Kondisi terkini pukul 20:00 WIB – Ratusan massa dari berbagai elemen mahasiswa di Provinsi Banten berdemonstrasi menolak pengesahan UU Omnibus Law Cipta Kerja di depan Kampus UIN Banten, Ciceri, Kota Serang, Selasa (6/10/2020) ricuh. pic.twitter.com/8pRAw8zVbL@fesbukbanten


October 6,

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Harris team assured by VP debate safety measures

WASHINGTON (AP) — The Latest on the 2020 presidential election (all times local):

8:20 p.m.

Kamala Harris’ chief of staff says the Democratic campaign is confident in the safety measures for Wednesday’s vice presidential debate.

But Karine Jean-Pierre also called it “shameful” that Vice President Mike Pence’s team objected to the use of a plexiglass barrier between the candidates. She noted that Pence heads the White House’s coronavirus task force and says he and his team should want more protection for him and people involved in the debate.

Her comments came during an interview Tuesday on CNN.


Harris and Pence will meet Wednesday night at the University of Utah for the only vice presidential debate.

Jean-Pierre says Harris is well-prepared to show viewers the contrast between President Donald Trump’s handling of the pandemic and how she and Joe Biden would approach it.

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EU court rules against Hungary over law that targeted Soros-affiliated university | Hungary

The European Union’s highest court has ruled that changes by Hungary to its law on higher education, which effectively forced a university founded by George Soros to leave the country, were not in line with EU law.

The European court of justice (ECJ) ruled against prime minister Viktor Orbán’s government, saying in the ruling that “the conditions introduced by Hungary to enable foreign higher education institutions to carry out their activities in its territory are incompatible with EU law”.

At the heart of the conflict is the fate of the Central European University (CEU) established by Soros, a Hungarian-American financier. Under pressure from Orbán, it had to relocate most of its main activities to Vienna from Budapest, where it had been operating since the early 1990s.

Orbán has been a vocal critic of Soros for years, arguing that the billionaire philanthropist is intent on undermining European values with his liberal

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