Dear Amy: Several years ago, my mother-in-law, “Betsy,” was unfaithful. This tore their family apart. More than once, Betsy asked my husband to “break the bad news” to his dad and to comfort him when he was devastated.
I was furious with her.
My parents were abusive during my childhood. My in-laws had always been wonderful. I saw them as a “replacement” for my broken family. Betsy destroyed that.
After she decided to stop running around, her husband welcomed her back immediately and acted like nothing had ever happened.
My father-in-law told me that I was also to act like nothing had ever happened, and that this was forgiveness. That directive destroyed any remaining feelings I had for either of them.
I have made peace with this, but the respect I used to have for them is gone. They want it all to be